The Best Marriage Advice
I’ve been married 10 years now, and this is what I learned on our journey. I share this to encourage you, and give you hope. If you feel like your marriage is failing, it is not! God is the ultimate redeemer, and he can restore your marriage. I am praying for your marriage girl, don’t give up.
- Marriage takes THREE. You, your spouse and Jesus. Jesus is the KEY!
- Marriage is more of a commitment than feelings. Marriage isn’t fairtales. Chick flicks aren’t real. Instagram isn’t always real life. You’re seeing the highlights of people lives. & what you thought marriage was, it isn’t. So throw your unrealistic expectations out the door. Stop comparing your marriages to others (it causes tension. And belittling). Be thankful for your spouse.
- It is not your spouses job to make you happy. Your husband will not fulfill you 100%. He wasn’t created to. Your husband cannot fill your voids. That’s Gods purpose. Happiness comes from within. We get joy from the Lord.
- Love doesn’t seek to control. You cannot control your spouse. You can’t change your spouse. Stop nagging. 1 Peter 3:1-2
- Apologize when you are wrong.
- Marriage is not about you. Eccles 4:9. Two are better than one.
- Forgiveness is key. Don’t bring up the past. Once you decide to forgive, that’s it. You can’t bring it up because you’re hurt. Don’t go to bed angry.
- We are flawed. It’s our nature. We were created that way. Your spouse has flaws and so do you. It’s so easy to point out others issues but not your own. Love is patient. Focus on the good.
- Realize that good relationships take time, effort, and investment. You have to give your marriage time to grow. Trials are necessary—John 8:12 pressure is needed. How are diamonds made?
- Just throw the D word away. Take it out of your vocabulary. Remove the demonic thoughts out your head. “I made a mistake, I should’ve married someone else, I’m miserable” guess what, you will still have problems in the next marriage, and it might even be worst. Your battle isn’t your spouse, the enemy wants to destroy marriages. You should be going to war in prayer, not in your house.
- You are not the same. None of us are created to be the same. God made us in his own image. Learn your husbands love language.
- Realize how much power you have. As women we have so much power with prayer.
- Submission. Ugh how I hated that word. Submit to your husband. Not because of what he’s doing right, but because it’s demanded by God. “My husband isn’t acting like the lord” submit to your husband and honor for what you want him to be. Honor him, and watch how God change him.
- Don’t be petty. Choose your battles. Not everything requires an argument. Everything that comes to your mind doesn’t have to be verbalized. You don’t have to address EVERYTHING. first check yourself. Are you being petty Betty? Are you hormonal? Are you just being crazy? Are you going through something else and taking it out on your spouse? What’s in you will come out. (Attitude)
My growing faith did not just come up with those wise words on my own. I used so many resources to help me realize these things! I encourage you to use the resources as well!
Bible app plans:
- David & Tamela Mann
- How to forgive someone who hurt you deeply
- Marriage crisis
YouTube Sermons (highly suggested)
- hungry generation : flight like a pro & spiritual warfare in marriage
- Transformation church: major keys to marriage | relationship goals part 4
Podcast
Life with the Lindsey’s : 10 things we learned in 10 years
Books
Doesn’t pertain to marriage, but it’s great read! & much needed.
TD jakes: when women pray
